How Do You Stop Jealousy Of A Mom With Sons Girlfriend?
My daughter is dating a guy that is not allowed to be in a relationship with her at age 17 because of moms jealousy. She will not look at her or speak to her and threatens to take everything away from him if he sees her. She needs companion but we cant help her. She is being very selfish. What should they do about the problem? They want a relationship very bad.
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Tags: Girlfriend, Jealousy, Sons, Stop
June 20, 2009 @ 7:38 am
Try having a group dinner… or befriending her?
It’s honestly non of your’s or the mom’s business because it’s their relationship… no one elses. But you can definitely try and help the matter by being a good “girl” friend to her.
But ultimately, her opinion shouldn’t affect his relationship with your daughter. And it’s wrong for her to try and force her feelings upon him.
Just try and always be supportive of the relationship. They need atleast one person they care about to support them!
June 20, 2009 @ 7:38 am
If he is not allowed to date, then that is his mother’s right and NOT yours. You have no right to tell her son what he can and can’t do. You are NOT his mother. Leave them alone and tell your daughter to either wait until he is 18 or move on.
June 20, 2009 @ 7:38 am
His mother is his legal guardian. If your daughter needs a companion thats what friends are for. You should make sure she gets plenty of time with her girl friends. If they want to be together they will have to wait until he is 18.
June 20, 2009 @ 7:38 am
I think he should try to talk to his mom and reason with her but if it doesn’t work then they might have to wait till he is 18 to have a relationship
June 20, 2009 @ 7:38 am
you can’t. get over it
June 20, 2009 @ 7:38 am
Ok wow, so the mom is jealous that her son is dating a girl who is 17? Well, first, i think that the mother may not necessarily be jealous. She may see changes in her son since he has been dating your daughter. Not saying that it is a bad thing or a good thing. I have been through this on 2 levels. First, my dad would not give anyone I dated a chance because he said that guys only wanted one thing. He didn’t care how nice i said the guy was or how bad i wanted to be in a relationship with him. He told me that i was too young and that i needed to focus on school. At the time, i wasn’t trying to hear all that. i was upset and a little rebellious. But in the end, he was right, as parents usually are.
Then, my husbands mother was ok with me and him dating. She would always say that i was her daughter n law, and talk about me and him getting married until the day that we decided to actually get married. That is when everything changed. She said that i was a gold digger and just wanted him for his money (which he had no job while we were dating) She said that i was trying to trap him because he was joining the military, they felt i was taking him away from them and what not. I mean just pretty much drug me through the dirt.
my reasons for telling these two stories is this…first at 17 your daughter is still a child. if her boyfriend’s mother is against him seeing her, you should respect that, just as if your daughter wanted to be with a much older man or someone that you didn’t approve of or a relationship that you didn’t approve of for whatever reasons. His mother has to look out for her son’s best interests even if it is something that he wants really badly. he is a child also. I don’t think that as a parent you should encourage your child to be with someone who can’t be with her openly. She is only 17. She has time. Eventually her boyfirend will become of age where his mother will not have that influence on him, and he can date whomever he so chooses to.
My mother and father always told me that as long as i live in their house and eat their food, I will do as they say. I got married and moved away. But in my parent’s defense, I am not with anyone that i dated as a teenager in highschool. Parents always knows best. I am sorry that your daughter is not accepted by his mother, but think of it from her point of view. It may not have anything to actually do with your daughter. You never know what goes on behind THEIR closed doors.