Does Sexual Fantasy About Others Indicate Dissatisfaction In Your Sex Life With Your Partner?
If you are attracted to your partner and desire sex with them why might you fantasize about others?
Does it bother you that your partner fantasizes about having sex with others?
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July 9, 2009 @ 11:03 am
sexual fantasy is both normal and healthy. I have met a number of women in my life who worried about this and tried to diminish their sexual thoughts, but I always told them and now i am telling you that allowing yourself to be sexual, allowing yourself to have sexual thoughts or fantasies even while having sex or masturbating is something that you do for your partner. The more often you get in the habit of saying yes to your sexuality the more responsive you become. The more you repress your normal urges – the more you are likely to repress sexual expression with your partner.
Some times women are uneasy because sexual thoughts and fantasies seem extreme and outside their comfort zone involving, other men, forced sexual acts, or even acts with other women. Remember that fantasies are simply ideas that turn you on, not things that in every case you actually want to do. For example many women find the idea of forced activity very exciting, this is due in part to the fact the the response to fear and the response to arousal are very similar. However,none of these woman actually want to be forced to do anything sexually.
So enjoy your fantasies and consider them food to nunourish your sexuality with your partner. He doesn’t need to know you excitement is not totally due to his wonderful skills as a lover.
July 9, 2009 @ 11:03 am
No, fantasy does not indicate dissastisfaction with your sex life. Everyone fantasizes. It’s about different things and changes and all sorts of crazy sexual situations. It’s fun and it’s harmless, unless your partner starts acting out with (A) telling you, and (B) putting themselves into dangerous situations. Try to talk to your partner and find out what they like and see if you can’t somehow bring it into the bedroom (Or kitchen).
Dress-up, wearing wigs, different costumes are all other ways to pretend like you’re someone else. Give them a try.
July 9, 2009 @ 11:03 am
there is a difference between love and lust. if you love someone, it does not mean you desire sex with them, it means you have a bond with them, they make you feel safe and loved. while lust means you want to have sex with them. these dreams might juts represent you have lust, but not that you dont love your partner
July 9, 2009 @ 11:03 am
If you had to pick a meal to eat for the rest of your life, even if it was your favorite, you would still fantasize about other meals. But in the end, it doesn’t matter where you get your appetite, as long as you eat at home.
July 9, 2009 @ 11:03 am
Not at all- i fantasize about other people and I wouldn’t be upset if they did the same.
July 10, 2009 @ 4:33 am
sexual fantasy is both normal and healthy. I have met a number of women in my life who worried about this and tried to diminish their sexual thoughts, but I always told them and now i am telling you that allowing yourself to be sexual, allowing yourself to have sexual thoughts or fantasies even while having sex or masturbating is something that you do for your partner. The more often you get in the habit of saying yes to your sexuality the more responsive you become. The more you repress your normal urges – the more you are likely to repress sexual expression with your partner.
Some times women are uneasy because sexual thoughts and fantasies seem extreme and outside their comfort zone involving, other men, forced sexual acts, or even acts with other women. Remember that fantasies are simply ideas that turn you on, not things that in every case you actually want to do. For example many women find the idea of forced activity very exciting, this is due in part to the fact the the response to fear and the response to arousal are very similar. However,none of these woman actually want to be forced to do anything sexually.
So enjoy your fantasies and consider them food to nunourish your sexuality with your partner. He doesn’t need to know you excitement is not totally due to his wonderful skills as a lover.
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