A memorable erotic massage takes planning. The actions you take prior to actually giving the massage are just as important as the massage technique itself. Setting the appropriate mood is vitally important in making your sensual massage as pleasurable and satisfying as intended.Setting the Mood

An erotic massage should be a pleasant, sensual experience. To ensure that both you and your partner have the best experience possible, take the following steps to set the stage for a truly sensual massage.

• Privacy – Plan ahead to avoid interruptions. Arrange for children to be away, lock the doors, turn off the phones, and eliminate any potential distractions.

• Location – Select a spacious and comfortable massage area. Beds are much more comfortable than couches or the floor. Also make sure that the room is neither too warm nor too cool so that your partner is able to enjoy the massage without excessive heat or chill.

• Ambiance – It’s important to set a romantic, sensual mood. Dim the lights, play some relaxing or erotic music, and light a candle or two to emit a romantic glow and subtle fragrance. Using one of the new massage candles especially developed for use when giving massages, would be perfect for this purpose. Not only will the massage candle provide a romantic ambiance, but it melts to become a warm and sensual massage oil that is ideal for giving the massage itself.

• Personal Preparation – Prior to the massage, suggest that your partner take a luxurious bath, complete with bath salts and candlelight. Your partner will be freshly bathed, fully relaxed, and ready to enjoy your sensual massage.Giving the Massage

First, it’s important to relax and enjoy yourself. Because this is an erotic massage, rather than one for therapeutic effect, you do not need to worry about exact technique. An erotic massage is intended to relax your partner, and eventually heighten his or her arousal if desired. This is quite easily achieved, even for beginners, if you follow these tips.

You will want to start slowly, being sensitive to your partner’s response. You can then adapt your technique accordingly. While giving a great massage takes a bit of practice, it is almost impossible to give a bad one. Simply strive to keep your movements tender and rhythmic, and remain aware of how your partner is responding.

To get started, simply rub some massage oil or cream in your hands and warm it prior to starting. If you’re using a massage candle for this purpose, your oil will already be warmed to just above body temperature and it will be ready for use after melting.

Where should you start the massage? That’s really up to you. While there is no right or wrong way to begin, it’s somewhat natural to start with your partner lying on his or her stomach. You might start at the shoulders, then move to the neck, down the shoulders again, and then on to arms, upper back, lower back, buttocks, thighs, calves, and eventually the feet.

You may wish to have your partner move to the back at that point. You might start at the feet and gradually work your way back up the body. Some suggest working on the feet and legs, then skip to the upper body, moving slowly back down toward the stomach and pelvic area. Working on certain areas longer, or more often than others, is both appropriate and desirable. Just be sure not to dwell too long on areas of extra sensitivity.

Some areas might be best massaged somewhat softly, while others respond more to deeper massage. Simply start experimenting. Just remember to always be tender and to keep your motions flowing.

The whole concept of erotic massage involves being touched in a way that will subtly arouse your partner sexually. As you explore his or her body, try to do it in a way that creates a continuous flow of movement, as well as to increase the level of intimacy as the massage progresses.

If you are doing a couple’s massage for the first time, or learning to please a new partner, it’s especially important to communicate. You don’t necessarily have to ask if every motion you try feels pleasurable, but don’t be afraid to ask if he or she would prefer you to massage an area more softly or slowly, for example.

Your partner’s breathing can also provide an excellent indication of how you are doing. His or her breathing can give you information about their state of relaxation. As the massage progresses, their breathing may indicate a more aroused state, which if intended, may give you exactly the type of feedback you are hoping for!

Always remember that there is absolutely no correct way to do an erotic massage. Just stay attuned to your partner’s response and gauge your movements accordingly. As you become more experienced, it will become second nature to you. In the meantime, enjoy giving your sensual massage . . . and prepare to experience an incredibly romantic interlude after!